I love the way the IFS model deepens my understanding of the inside interplay of my emotions and reactions. But I wonder what Dick Schwartz (originator of the model) would say about the other aspects of who we are.
I believe that there's more to the substance of the person than feelings, assumptions, managers, firefighters, exiles, and moderating Self. (Click here for an explanation of some of the terms.) Somewhere inside live my values, genuine love, and the conviction that appreciation, gratitude, esteem and generosity are better than conniving, backstabbing, betrayal, and using others for one's own satisfaction.
What do you make of this? Is there a "meta-Self" where we are who we really are? If not, someone needs to explain to me why someone risks his/her life to save a stranger while all the firefighters and managers have to be screaming their heads off to prevent it.
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